The excitement over getting engaged doesn’t have time to sink in and you are already in the crush of planning the perfect wedding. While it seems like the ring on your finger spells happily ever after, the wedding planning process can really make you crash into rude reality. According to estimates, engaged couples have more fights during the wedding planning than during the entire time before! Here are some of the red flags during wedding planning which can quickly escalate into arguments.
The money
This is the biggest area of contention. You may argue about the size and scale, the venue, how many to invite, decoration and entertainment and a host of other factors, all from the point of how much money will be spent. It is wise to be upfront about your financial situation and how much you are willing to pay. After all, you should not start off married life with a whole lot of debt! Be clear on the budget and stick to it. Period.
The families
In India, it is popularly said that it is not two people who marry, but two families. That is definitely true, with 90% marriages still being arranged the old fashioned way by the elders of both families. All these people will have their own expectations of what you should do and not do on your wedding day. This is where your partner can really help you to state your wishes firmly. Negotiating with families should not create tension between the couple.
Who does what?
It is a misconception that the bride is more excited about the wedding than the groom. Chances are, the groom generally has to take a backseat because weddings have become all about what the bride wants. It doesn’t have to be like that. Play to strengths and divide the workload accordingly. Get the groom involved. It’s his special day too!
Who attends?
Sit down with your partner and get ruthless about how many guests you want to invite. Don’t give in to pressure and invite everyone you know from neighbors to distant relatives. Every extra guest inflates the budget. When costs skyrocket, it naturally causes tension between the couple.
